How do you relate to food?
is your relationship loving, nurturing, and caring? Or is food something that you eat only to survive? Do you have a tumultuous connection to food that can lead to bingeing for emotional support?
My relationship with food has been all of the above, I associated food with love from a very young age and have since been trying to unravel the relationship. I have broken patterns and taken on new ones. Ive dieted, binged, fasted, juiced, obsessively exercised, and boycotted exercise.
In the end my struggle with food has nothing to do with food really, my struggle has been with myself and learning how to feel. Learning to question my automated actions, and finding the best way to support myself by being with myself, rather then looking externally for something to fill loneliness, emptiness and the list could go on.
Quitting dieting has been one of the most liberating and terrifying things I have ever done. It's giving myself permission to trust that my body will tell me when its had enough. Its learning what hunger and fullness physically feel like, and allowing myself to fumble though the process... mistakes and all!
The book Woman Food and God was a very influential book for me, in the book Geneen Roth offers a set of mindful eating guidelines that I have found to be very helpful for me in this ever evolving curiosity with food.
Eat when you are hungry.
Eat sitting down in a calm environment. This does not include the car.
Eat without distractions. Distractions include radio, television, newspapers, books, intense or anxiety-producing conversations or music.
Eat what your body wants.
Eat until you are satisfied.
Eat (with the intention of being) in full view of others.
Eat with enjoyment, gusto and pleasure.
How we relate to food exposes a whole world of how we relate to ourselves and those we love. There is so much insight and wonder in each and every bite. Be curious, ask yourself questions, loosen up on labels and what you think your body is or does. When we make space for growth and change without expectations.... We grow beyond our wildest dreams.
You are loved. You are safe to feel. You are special... No if's and's or but's about it.